How to Heal Child Trauma

A Parent’s Guide to Nurturing Resilience

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Experiences in Resilience Are Key To Helping Your Child Heal From Trauma


My youngest had a skiing accident in January of 2023 that resulted in a traumatic brain injury. Recovery was slow, but in January 2024 we practiced our final step of healing. Not from the bodily injury which luckily they have recovered from, but from the emotional one. The traumatic one. We returned to where the accident happened and we tried skiing again.

There were times when my child felt scared, but we talked and hugged and I encouraged them to move past their fear to experience what they were capable of because I knew they were ready for this. And then we went slow and we skied together.


In short we had a lesson in resilience


And 3 hours later I couldn’t pull my child off the hill because they were having so much fun. And they were no longer skiing close to me, they wanted to do it on their own. They had experienced so much confidence building.

But the best part as a parent was that my child experienced resilience. The idea that sometimes in life, bad things happen. But it does not mean it stays like that forever. A child can overcome their fears and teach their body a new experience that helps to override the old. In short, a child can help themselves heal trauma.

Childhood trauma can occur in many different ways


Physical trauma to the body is just one of the many ways children can experience childhood trauma. But a lot of the time, the trauma that occurs in childhood is not visible by a physical accident. A lot of child trauma is the result of mental or emotional trauma. And you may not always know your child has gone through trauma until you start to notice new behaviors as part of their trauma response.

Because the truth is, trauma is not always a really big event. It can be a lot of little events that add up over time. Or it may be one event, but where you did not realize it was a significant event to your child because it did not impact you the same way. In fact, trauma can result from any stressful event. Sometimes it is from a bunch of little criticisms or dismissals. Other times the event is big or prolonged. But the key to something creating trauma in your child is that the event, big or small, short or long, was something that created significant stress in the child where things felt overwhelming and unpredictable. It is that feeling of extreme stress and unpredictability that creates child trauma. But the good news is you can help heal child trauma through resilience.


When you want to help heal child trauma through resilience, do the following:

1. Make sure you acknowledge and validate their feelings

Your child’s body is trying to keep them safe based on their past experience so it can produce some big and overwhelming feelings. Don’t gloss over those feelings, help your child to recognize them and where they may be coming from. And help them to co-regulate so those feelings don’t feel so overwhelming.

2. Help your child by letting them borrow your confidence

Your child will have doubts about trying something they feel is too hard or too scary. This is natural. Their body is trying to protect them from more trauma. Your job is to let them know you have confidence in them and that you believe they are ready so they can begin to believe it as well.

3. Go slow

It’s not about conquering it all. It is about helping your child stretch their tolerance while making them successful. Let them help guide the pace. Sometimes that means it is a small step in the direction of healing. And that is just fine. Keep having them take those small steps and they will get there.

The truth is my goal was to get my child back out to the same hill and onto skis. I was planning to spend the entire time on the bunny hill with them. And I was prepared to take a lot of breaks in the chalet.

And that slow approach with low expectations gave my child the chance to set their pace. It was my child that wanted to slowly do more and begin doing the bigger runs. Which is why it was so impactful because my child was leading their own trauma healing.

Final Thoughts On Healing Child Trauma


While trauma itself is never fully erased from the body, your goal is to create an experience to overshadow it. Something to remember if past trauma sparks an emotional response. Because that will happen from time to time with trauma. But the more experiences in resilience you can support, the more your child will be able to better manage their trauma response.

Finally, helping a child who has experienced trauma can be overwhelming sometimes. Some kids have very physical and aggressive behaviors because of the child trauma they have experienced. If you have a child with trauma that you are struggling to parent, reach out for help. I offer free consultations and all of my parenting techniques are trauma-informed to help aid healing in both you and your child.